The biggest sadness of old age is to be careful with own children
Children grow up, more knowledgeable, gradually impatient and look down on their parents, making them a cautious “hedgehog”.
A reader sent her story to the Sina section: “I bought my mother a smartphone. She asked me to teach her how to use it. I showed her how to download apps, then turn on the phone. Then my mom came in and asked about a new software. Later, while I was getting busy, the lady in the kitchen lamented that she couldn’t use the new machine. The interruption of work ideas made me frustrated, I ran to the kitchen and yelled at my mother. She looked up at me miserable: “Or better, I still use my old phone.” “It’s up to you, mom. Do whatever you want,” I impatiently walked out, leaving my mother alone with her brand new phone.
Late that night, when I was about to go to sleep, I received a message from my mother: “Son, I am old. I quickly forget what others say. I don’t even remember what I said. While cooking, when I forgot to plug in. Can you be more patient with me?”
The lines my mother wrote made my eyes wet. I know, she didn’t dare to talk to me directly, so she texted. I tormented myself: If only could have been a little more patient.
In the days that followed, my mother stopped asking me about the phone. She herself tinkered and learned how to download the app.”
Readers expressed that he knew his mother was hurt. He shared: “The saddest thing is not my attitude, but the message I have conveyed through that attitude, which reminds my mother: She is old, and is gradually becoming useless. “. Now, when he looks back calmly, he feels tormented, because he has left scars in the heart of his father.
Parents’ biggest sadness as they get older is being forced to become more cautious with their children.
In childhood, in the eyes of children, parents are the ones who know everything and are stronger than all. Parents are two mountains, protecting and bringing peace to the child.
But one day, those “mountains” no longer stand tall. That’s when the parents get old. They have many things they dare not ask, dare not talk about with their children. For the simple reason, age makes them more vulnerable. It is also because children gradually change, become impatient, more knowledgeable and gradually look down on their parents. That turns the parent into a cautious “hedgehog”.
The popular Chinese TV series Happy Family has brought tears to many people’s eyes, because of the messages it brings. The film’s content revolves around a talented young man, who is a doctor of a large institute, but he cannot be promoted because many other colleagues have more prominent families and positions. One day, in frustration at the loss of his potential position, he went home and blamed his father: “Daddy keeps asking me every day if I’m hungry? I can only take care of you hungry and full, can’t take care of you for a career.” The child’s complaint leaves the father empty and heartbroken. He said: “It’s me that’s wrong, it’s that I’m incapable of giving you better things.”
The companionship of parents in every stage of a child’s life is like a wall between the child and “Death”. Whether you are 3, 5, or 40, 60, you always feel that death is far away from us, when your parents are still around. However, when the one who was born returns to the dust, the emotions will completely change. Children feel they have entered a new phase of life, understand the pain of loss due to the fragility of life, they become older, more lonely, and weaker, when they are gone. important support. That is when children understand the full value of their parents.
To avoid hurting your parents, don’t:
– Blame the “incompetence” of parents
You can blame your parents for not being able to give you what you want, but don’t forget that they gave you the ability. Whether you achieve what you want or not, largely depends on your own ability.
– Complaining about parental complaints
Complaints can be frustrating, but they do it because they truly love you and want you to be better.
– Grumpy about parental tardiness
As children, we rely on our parents to walk. Now that parents are old, they have to rely on their children to move. Every time they slow down, slow down, remember your early days, you are no different.
– I hate it when my parents are sick
Birth, old age, sickness and death, no one escapes that natural law. When your parents were young, they took care of you little by little, by your side when you were sick. As they get older, it’s time to return to that cycle.
